10 tips for dating success - Tip#2

Tip #2 -- Be careful of looking like a player or “over-qualifying” her.

A lot of women are intimidated by men that come across as almost too secure or too cocky. They seem like “players.” This is because a guy that is too confident with women can forget to establish the right feelings before establishing his confidence.

What you have to do is establish RAPPORT and TRUST while you're giving her the

James Bond smile. Be smooth, but seem like a real flesh and blood man.

You have to come across as human


Remember that part of the equation is feeling self-confident, but that doesn't mean

she has to trust you or feel comfortable around you.

So shoot for the confidence as you work on building rapport with her.

Always remember that what you think you're communicating with your confidence may not be received and interpreted the way you want. Confidence is a combination of many small behaviors that add up to the overall total self-confidence of a man


If you're not achieving congruency (your actions = your beliefs) then you'll trigger alarms in her head and she'll lose her feelings of trust.

I believe that most guys want just one good woman, and that's the primary reason you get obsessed when you find a woman you really like. You realize how rare a good woman is, and you want to lock her in as soon as possible.

You want to avoid over-doing it. Acting aloof or distant is the wrong angle to play early in the game. You want to appear unflappable by her behavior, but not too distant from her.

Again, you must be human. She has to feel that you've got a heart. (And hopefully, you do have one!)

Remember: Act with laid-back confidence that she can trust. And be authentic!

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